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Intimate Wedding – 10 Myths to get rid of

Here I am writing another blog post, for couples who want to get married but who feel that the perfect wedding for them is not what tradition dictates.
This blog post will help reassure you and stop listening to those who tell you this BS!

Furthermore, you will understand that these statements are indeed very relative.
Thinking about it, you will be able to understand that there is no general right or wrong. But rather something that you feel inside and yours.
The decision for a small wedding comes from within, fears from the outside.

 

  1. It’s Not Special And “True” Like A Big Wedding
  2. The Wedding Ceremony Is Superfluous Because It’s Not Important
  3. There Is Nothing To Do During The Day
  4. It Is A Quickly Organized Thing
  5. An Intimate Wedding Must Be Simple And Cheap
  6. Wedding With Few Guests = They Marry Just To Get It Done
  7. It’s For Poor Or Stingy People
  8. An Intimate Wedding Must Be A Secret
  9. It’s Seedy And Fast
  10. Elopement Weddings Are Selfish

 

It’s Not Special And “True” Like A Big Wedding

That the importance of a wedding is measured by the number of guests makes me very sad. Unfortunately, it is a bit of culture that teaches us this. It makes me sick to know that so many young couples are afraid of missing out if they don’t have a huge wedding with 200+ guests.

In my opinion and experience, a romantic elopement is even more emotionally charged than a traditional wedding. It often seems to me that at weddings we usually have, the focus of the party is lost a little – I mean the very reason for the celebration. Don’t you find it stressful to have to be with all the guests instead of taking genuine care of a few but good ones?

 

The wedding ceremony is superfluous, because it is not important

An intimate wedding can take place in a civil registry office and there is no time to have a serious ceremony. Often the municipalities are not very romantic places, (even if I really like the smell of paper in the offices) and although some mayors may have the skills of a good officiant, having such a simple ceremony, it is not really every couple’s dream.

But who says you can only have a quick and “meaningless” ceremony?
The options are a thousand and there are tons of ways for a lovely wedding ceremony – th one of your dreams too! Don’t stop at the civil registry ceremony, if that’s not what you appreciate.

 

There is nothing to do during the day

Quite the contrary! You have time to do more things and more things that really interest you!

Of course, transporting a large number of guests from one place to another takes its time – which could make it waste just as much. Sometimes, at big weddings, it seems you have to wait a lot around for things to happen.
Instead of following a traditional plan – why not use the time to hike? Or to sit in a meadow and admire the mountains? Go on a paragliding ride? Why not celebrate in so many different ways and why not do things that represent you? I also wrote a blog post on ideas to make your intimate and simple wedding even more special!

 

Elopements Are Quickly Organized Things

It can, but it must not.
It all depends on you and how important it is to have the time to organize your day.
Just because a wedding is organized in a short time does not mean that it is badly organized. Or at least not always.
How much time is okay to plan your elopement wedding?
Indeed, it is all relative. I have seen couples realize their dream in 2 months – 3 weeks and 2 years. The importance of a wedding is not measured by the time it takes to organize it. The importance is simply not measurable – you have to feel it as yours and you can be free to put the amount of time you need to make it perfect for you!
With this, we go to the next point, which is very similar.

 

An Intimate Wedding Must Be Simple And Cheap

Holy canoli – NO! NO AND NO AND ONCE AGAIN NO!
By the way, what does “simple” mean and what does “cheap” mean? Simplicity and cheapness are just as relative as the time it takes to organize the wedding. We are all different and have different priorities.

Certainly, an intimate wedding can be for tight budgets and may have less details – but it doesn’t have to. Above all, it doesn’t immediately mean it’s bleak.
There are people who quietly invest even €35,000 for their intimate wedding. These couples do it precisely because it is not important for them to have a lavish wedding for the guests, but because they want to afford something that they like and that is important to them. Whether it’s a luxury hotel or a very long holiday. It matters little – even here, the importance of an elopement wedding is not measured in “simple” and “economic”. Over and out.

 

Wedding With Few Guests = They Marry Just To Get It Done

No oh well, something is going terribly wrong! Shall we take off the blinders, please? A wedding with few or no guests is not synonymous with drunken getting married in Las Vegas on a whim. Thank you.
I also hear “Yes, but those are getting married for the fifteenth time, then”. Um NO! It doesn’t matter if it’s the first or third time. If you try again, it means you still believe in it. And if you want a small and different wedding, maybe it’s because it suits you better and not because it matters less. Regardless if it’s the first or fifteenth time.

Couples who intentionally choose a romantic intimate wedding are often couples who are simply looking for a different experience – one that makes them feel at ease. And boy, how much I understand them!
I don’t know about you, but I get anxious just thinking about inviting more than 2 people (me + my future husband) at my wedding. Maybe I would invite my cats too but oh well – I think the point is clear.

 

It’s For Poor Or Stingy People

* rolls eyes endlessly *

Should we discuss this? It is probably said by those who feel offended not to be invited.
This also saddens me a lot, because couples may feel that what they want is not worthy of being called wedding. Or worse still being called stingy by friends or relatives offended for their choice. Nobody wants to feel poor or stingy. But in most cases, neither one nor the other is really a decision point. I don’t think couples want to marry intimately just “to save money” – maybe, but that’s certainly not the crux. This is also to take back what I said above: “cheap” is relative.

 

An Intimate Wedding Must Be A Secret

It can, but it must not. Indeed, couples often prefer to be transparent and tell it at home or even take some close friends or relatives with them.

Even if it were a secret, it does not mean that the wedding is shameful or made against the want of the family. Some couples are simply looking for something just for them.
A little party back home from the elopement can always be something nice. Nobody says you can only celebrate just one day. If not, please leave me an email here ellen@weddingphotographerdolomites.com and let me know more ok, thanks!
And by the way, here you are the blog post about multiple-days weddings!

 

It’s seedy and fast

What do you mean? Just because we don’t have 2h mass is not good and it’s like we weren’t married, do I understand correctly?
Who cares how long a ceremony lasts, if done with heart and feelings? And then, maybe if someone helps me to define “seedy” I would be really grateful.
Like so many of these myths, this statement is also very relative.

Did you know that the dream of some newlywed couple is to have the most total informality and to take a trip to the refuge and eat polenta with mushrooms?
Well, I don’t see anything shabby and if there is someone in your circle of friends or relatives who thinks so, it’s okay to leave them at home – sorry if I’m a bit mean.

 

Elopement weddings are selfish

This is the worst myth, which makes many people feel guilty who feel with their hearts that they want a small wedding and have a romantic or adventurous day.
I want to reassure you that it is NOT selfish to want to marry intimately. Whether it’s just the two of you or 5 or 20 of you. Think rather of doing a favour to those who don’t want to go to weddings anyway. Have you never seen the memes on Facebook and who comments on them? : P These people are everywhere, don’t be fooled.
And if despite everything, you want to celebrate together, there is still the possibility of doing it later. In the end, you two want to get married, no one else is needed.

 

In The End:

As I mentioned in the introduction, many of these myths are very relative and there is no general answer. But an answer that makes you feel at ease.

Your desires come from within, your fears from the outside.

If there is anything else I can do for you – even just a video call to find out if a small wedding in the Dolomites could be for you, don’t hesitate to contact me!

 

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7 Ideas To Celebrate An Intimate And Simple Wedding – Alternative Wedding

 

Weddings don’t always have to be super big parties to be meaningful.
Indeed, I believe that in small weddings the meaning of the celebration can be grasped even better.
We have something for everyone, from the most adventurous activities to the most peaceful experiences. There are no rules for modern, energetic weddings and couples!
Here are some alternative ideas for an intimate and simple wedding, worthy of your love!

 

  1. A wedding day on skis
  2. Getting married in the mountains with alpacas
  3. Helicopter ride in the Dolomites
  4. Paragliding flight over Corvara
  5. Visit the Reinhold Messner museum
  6. Eat in a Michelin-starred restaurant in Alta Badia
  7. Sledding with Husky Dogs in Selva di Val Gardena and on the Passo delle Erbe

A wedding day on skis

Who says you can’t ski in your wedding clothing? A ski wedding is just a different wedding. For badass couples who don’t care what others think – celebrate at full speed on the slopes of Alta Badia!
Mostly we have huts for all tastes, from the simplest self-service to the hut serving champagne and oysters. In short, free the choice – just have fun!

 

Getting married in the mountains with alpacas

I think this is the most romantic tip of all time! Alpacas are very nice beings, albeit reserved and tame. In Colfosco trekking with alpacas are organized and why not take the opportunity to get married with alpacas on a leash, in a mountain meadow?

 

Helicopter ride in the Dolomites

Hell yesss! a helicopter ride on the wedding day allows you to contemplate the Dolomites from above. It gives me goosebumps just thinking about it. Elikos, offers helicopter tours over the Dolomites.
You could also take the opportunity of the helicopter to reach the peaks and get married practically on the top of a mountain. Spectacular, isn’t it?

 

Paragliding flight over Corvara

Much like the helicopter ride, there is the paragliding ride, which allows you to have equally spectacular emotions at a lower price.

Corvara’s “Tandem Flights” team will allow you to take a tour that will last about 20 minutes. A good idea would be to take a walk and an intimate and simple wedding ceremony at high altitude and then go paragliding. What an epic experience!

 

Visit the Reinhold Messner museum

For couples who need a dose of culture even on their wedding day. Have you ever thought about getting married in a museum or visiting one on that day? Well, I have something really cool to propose!
The Lumen Museum on Plan De Corones is a mountain museum by Reinhold Messner and is done in a very interesting way.
First, certainly, the scary landscapes that we find at Plan De Corones, where an outdoor wedding ceremony fits 100%.
Secondly, both the restaurant and the museum can be reached with the lift, so even if you have some older guests with you, you don’t have to worry – we have every kind of comfort, for every need.
Third, the restaurant we are talking about is a Norbert Niederkofler gourmet restaurant. Having the wedding dinner there wouldn’t be bad at all. Apropos to by Norbert Niederkofler…

 

Eat in a Michelin-starred restaurant in Alta Badia

This is for DOC foodies! In Alta Badia, we have 2 starred restaurants!
La Stüa de Michîl and St. Hubertus Restaurant. Almost tailor-made for those who really want to enjoy their day to the fullest. This last idea for an intimate and simple wedding can actually be combined with any of the experiences I mentioned above since this could be the most beautiful of all conclusions.

 

Sledding with Husky Dogs in Selva di Val Gardena and on the Passo delle Erbe

Adventurous and cute, taking a sledge ride with the huskies is a beautiful experience that is somewhat reminiscent of the Nordic countries.
Why not get married in the midst of the Husky of the Dolomites?
You get there very easily and you don’t need any experience or physical condition for that. Here are the Husky Sled Dogs!

getting married with alpacas in winter colfosco alta badia

Did you like the suggestions?

Are you looking for an intimate and simple wedding, worthy of your love?
If you liked my advice I will be happy to give you even more on this topic and you still need a photographer? Do not hesitate to contact me for a non-binding video call and discover all the possibilities of organizing an alternative wedding.
For a unique experience, all around you!

 

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Multi-Day Wedding – How To Make Your Wedding Special

 

You don’t feel like a traditional wedding – what friends and relatives do at their weddings just make you roll your eyes and you don’t want to have a wedding like that.
Good! Then I have enough reasons to have a wedding that represents you 100% and that you won’t regret having.

 

Unfortunately in our society, we have learned that a wedding is only celebrated on one day and that we must invite friends and relatives, even if only out of politeness.

But why actually limit ourselves to this? Maybe you want to have some friends or relatives at the wedding, but you don’t want to have to compromise the intimacy you dream of and that makes you feel free and safe. On the other hand, a day to do all this is really too short.

So why not think of the wedding as an experience instead of a day? In the end, you wouldn’t be the first to celebrate multi-day weddings, as other cultures celebrate multi-day weddings.

Let’s see together if a multi-day wedding could be for you!

 

There is no need to choose between intimacy and wedding guests

I often see a lot of stress when talking to couples planning a one-day wedding. Every now and then they seem to have to decide whether they prefer to be with the guests or have time for themselves.
I firmly believe that a wedding should not be a compromise for any reason in the world. If you feel torn as well, the choice of a multi-day wedding could be for you! Just take it all, instead of choosing.

 

You can have an official ceremony and another to speak the vows by yourselves

You don’t have to be an introverted person to feel uncomfortable in front of guests. Even if they are 20 or less, maybe you don’t tell each other everything you want when there are people listening. Yet perhaps it might hurt to know that an important person is missing when you say yes.
Who says that the ceremony alone is what is valid celebrating? Why not organize a moment for yourself where you can tell yourself everything you want, without any filters?! Imagine being in a place in the middle of the mountains, where no one hears what you are saying, except you two. And where nature will remember your promises.

couple in the dolomites kissing wedding alta badia

You will have more flexibility to take Stunning photos, hiking, skiing or other activities

You just can’t decide what your wedding day should be about? So why not decide to do it over more days and enjoy the feeling of magic that a multi-day wedding has to give you? A romantic getaway between excursions and photos at sunrise or sunset really doesn’t leave so much place for “meh” compromises.
Do you need suggestions for unusual activities for your wedding? Here are some ideas that will make your simple, intimate wedding special!

 

You can combine the wedding with the honeymoon directly!

The Dolomites offer so much and are the perfect place to go on holiday!
So why not take enough time to combine the wedding with the honeymoon? I have put together a list of the most beautiful honeymoon hotels in the Dolomites for you!

 

As a photographer who loves unusual things, I gladly make recommendations to my couples to take more time and see their wedding as an experience that lasts more than a single day. Of magic that is more than a photoshoot and that is more than a simple wedding.

I will help you find the right activity for you to create a unique experience around you!

 

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Couple at Lago di Braies in winter - Dolomites

Secret Proposal Inspiration:
Lago di Braies – Dolomites


Let me tell you the story of Chiara & Francesco who got officially engaged in December 2019 at Lago di Braies e find the inspiration for your secret proposal!

In this blog post, you will find the best photographs and some inspiration to make your Secret Proposal in the Dolomites a piece of a posh fairytale.

How To Organize A Secret Proposal?

It all started with Jlenia Costner – The Dolomites Wedding Planner . She contacted me because she had an amazing job: A secret proposal! Jlenia is a young but experienced creative mind. She knows exactly how to organize special events, loves the details and is very supportive with the couples. She’s always a pleasure to work with.

The Secret Proposal Inspiration

After Francesco and Chiara decided to get married, Francesco wanted to make her a very romantic proposal in The Dolomites, where Chiara has never been before! He was not sure about what exactly the proposal should look like, so Jlenia gave him some good secret proposal inspiration and in the end, Francesco wanted to take Chiara to the well-known Lago di Braies. 

But Francesco wouldn’t just make her the secret proposal at Lago di Braies. He wanted to make this memory totally memorable. He wanted something enchanted. The Dolomites are so much more than a good place to hike and ski! The Dolomites are definitely a fairytale worthy place. That’s why he wouldn’t stop at a simple proposal.

Not A Simple Proposal

Francesco wanted to have a romantic winter pic-nic on the lake! Since Lago di Braies is rather famous, and tons of people visit this wonderful place, Jlenia and I had to find a nice spot where both were undisturbed and could enjoy the view on the lake whilst drinking a lovely cup of mulled wine and eating Christmas cookies!

I helped Jlenia with all the things we had to carry from the car to the lake! It was the moment where I understood how much I loved my job and working for people who enjoy being part of something bigger than themselves! She had mulled wine, Christmas cookies, cake hand and feet warming pads, a lovely cosy blanket too. The details couldn’t miss, so she brought lanterns and candles there to decorate their spot! We had fun preparing the picnic, and a lot of people came there to watch what we were doing. Of course, it was curious. Not everybody prepares such a picnic. And guess: Chiara knew literally NOTHING!

 

Winter Wonderland Picnic – Lago di Braies – The Dolomites

Francesco in the meanwhile told Chiara they would go to a beautiful place, so she should dress well and put on her makeup! He tried to dress in similar colours to hers, so they would be perfect for the photoshoot. That’s what I always recommend for couple photoshoots.

In fact, they were absolutely amazing!

Francesco wrote us a message when they were at Lago di Braies, so we could be prepared to spot them. We have never seen each other, so to recognize the couple in the middle of so many people was not easy. But Francesco gave a short sign when he recognized me. Jlenia left me alone and became a ghost. I couldn’t tell where she was for the whole 2 hours we shot at Lago di Braies. But I know she was still there.

Winter Wonderland Picnic – Lago di Braies – The Dolomites

 

The Crucial Moment!

The moment where Francesco kneed in front of Chiara to propose in the middle of the lake, was simply overwhelming. There is simply nothing more to say! I was so excited to see the scene and was proud to be their paparazzi. It felt good! 

 

The Secret Proposal & It’s SURPRISE!

After that, I went there and presented myself. Francesco told her he hired me for them and that I would third-wheeling them for 2 hours at the lake. We could immediately connect because I had my eccentric red cape and a my cat beanie. We all are cat lovers and couldn’t go along better! What Chiara didn’t expect was another surprise: The winter wonderland picnic on the Lago di Braies lakeside. I had to show them where the picnic spot was; so I took them there. Chiara was overwhelmed and couldn’t believe Francesco had organized all this for her!

 

The Winter Picnic at Lago di Braies – The Best Secret Proposal Inspiration

The last picture was the moment when she realized that the picnic was meant for them! Of course, I and Francesco didn’t tell anything about Jlenia, the wedding planner.

Chiara and Francesco enjoyed the epic winter picnic at the lakeside of Lago di Braies. Even though there are always tons of people at Lago di Braies during the seasons, we had good luck. When we just have arrived at the lake, we were a little worried because it was quite busy there. But as soon as Chiara and Francesco arrived, many people left. Probably because they went away for lunch. So lunchtime seems to be a good time to go to Lago di Braies, to encounter fewer people.
This is the best secret proposal inspiration you can take from here! A picnic is always cool!

 

A Walk & The Photo Session at Lago di Braies

We had some time to make some soft and idyllic pictures on the lake too! So we had a walk around the lake and some fun shooting. Chiara and Francesco enjoyed this view and the snow, they otherwise don’t get to see in southern Italy. I was very proud to show them where I live and told them about our magical places in The Dolomites as well. Both were enchanted by nature!

 

The Snack Bar Warm-Up | After the Secret proposal

The last 30 minutes we decided to go into the little snack bar to warm up. It was rather cold in the later afternoon. So I shot a few last beautiful indoor photos. It felt like a love-movie to me. Chiara and Francesco were just perfect! And perfectly happy. They couldn’t imagine a more beautiful mountain engagement in winter!

To Be Continued…

After their wonderful Secret Proposal at Lago di Braies, Jlenia organized a magical Dinner at Rifugio Col Pradat. So they went there and I and Jlenia went back home. If this story could give you some secret proposal inspiration to propose to your best friend in The Dolomites, you can hire Jlenia here! And I’ll be glad too to be your secret paparazzi and friend!

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